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As properly understood, democratic parenting success Marcel is 18, and Marcel is a follower. Since man is a herd animal known that can be cited by the leader of the pack, it's not surprising.
Marcel is a "normal" young man who does what others do. He wears Baggies, eating is the fast-food hamburgers, spends his free time in the gym and in front of the computer, looking for the one-night stand at parties, clubs nightclubs and think, not always to HIV prevention, tilts a lot of alcohol and other drugs, likes football after bone damage "model" the wrecking ball Wayne Rooney, still admiring girls and boys swarm Cristiano Ronaldo and does not speak German anymore. He speaks a kind of "Uch Turk", the "further development" of the backward-looking German language culture in multicultural influences of an accepted general education degrees deficit.
is the "cool" because you can freeze it and his mind easily understand the migrant's neighboring school at the same time is that as a student of German origin comparatively him is actually even more stupid than himself, the man is correct because the correct now no longer on the Duden sized leaves, but most schools 'progress' and the learning ability of the friend with an immigrant background.
lost personality through peer pressure But if Marcel is a fellow traveler, who is guided by others, begs the question,
who guides him actually.
Wen Marcel has taken as a model, by which he would emulate his behavior and appearance? Already here is striking that no Marcel Role models, but merely imitating exactly considered cool and what thousands have already done before him. Throughout his environment, he does not know anyone who falls out of character, which might have a different model, which might not even emulate the same variety resistant operations. He hardly anyone is aware that differs from the others, as he has other interests and hobbies. One who dresses differently, because he may think that you should only join Fashion if it also flatters your own type and thus is largely created his own fashion garments.
But if Marcel does only what everyone else is doing well, then decide the other in fact already on his life and his behavior. The young man has lost his personality and the latest here is a victim of its surroundings become. Because "including" Marcel wants, he will adapt. But anyone who says to him, then, that to make what most other must be right? The German popularly called and apologized to force like this as so-called "peer pressure" if he fails, however, have liked something? counts
individuality Marcel will certainly also be part of it, if he is wearing shorts that are identifiable as shorts and not visible to only 20 inches from the shin can be and look as if the money for the new, long trousers not been sufficient. Just a pair of pants, which appropriately enough to allow sunlight in summer, on his thighs, as wearing a short otherwise would defeat its purpose anyway.
He will also belong to it, should appeal to him once the delicious fish restaurants of the port more than the boneless, flat ironed Hanseat between two round and round the body nor-making bread halves of a hamburger chain. He also is respected, Marcel should do about all the excessive fitness instead of contrast, its temples and no muscle strands by frequent bed sports and Cycling Free-riding support.
Perhaps Marcel also has completely different interests and taking ballet lessons in his spare time and speeds up in view of its environment, rather frightening extensive brain sport. Perhaps Marcel designs his own clothes and even surpassed that of even the garish outfit
Ralph Morgenstern or
Wolfgang Joop . For this purpose, he need not necessarily be a Absorptionist of the male sex, but just his creative side to express successfully.
adaptation damages the personality
That is a fact. Who wants to submit to having his own personality to underline that would make it so. For those that think but can not and even their own creative ideas about themselves, about life and its environment has, the better should probably never be subject to the temptation to fit in any other form, because otherwise he threatens to go almost unnoticed by the crowd.
just because it's the diversity, the most interesting differences visible and enhance the living together of people is really capable of. Without a very livable and lovable variety of livelihoods and could also paint the same things we all green houses, lest they run the risk of standing out from the trees. Unfavorable, it would only when the cases a house roof tiles instead of cherries head and face of the precipitating visit to him in this way to inform you that differences still remain that are not explained away.
Would Marcel but in fact different from the mass, he would probably run into the phenomenon that one or the other turns around in wonder or belächelnd to him that whispering, gossiping and is blasphemed. But the gossip, blasphemers and laughing are not those who laugh last. Because they are just to show the fact of their unacceptability and intolerance and their blasphemy, that the life form has attracted interest from Marcel and they themselves do not seem to be able, he to do the same. Otherwise they would consider Marcel rather not lose, and therefore not a word about it.
Each person is different everyone for thinking differently than the other. Each one of us looks different.
Every individual has different interests and was brought up differently. These are just all conditions to ensure that it is actually completely inappropriate and almost unbearable to do everything the same and copy other people. Copying of people we should wherever possible be left to the actors, impersonators and comedians.
For Marcel, it is important to his own Inimitable personality in the absence of a completely to provide redundant image neurosis in the foreground. In this way, it certainly pays its environment of respect even if it would be hardly noticed by him. It is regrettable in this case at least, the fact that this is our youth from parents, teachers and other parents do not advance or not rather taught. They distinguish themselves, however as the hard-line supporters of the ubiquitous Einheitsbreis.
creative themselves determine It may be that Marcel is in this way even once be a trendsetter and role model of what he then can be sure if his neighbor with an immigrant background also with rosy-flowered Striped socks laces closed in blue glossy leather shoe with rhinestones gold buckles appears. but this outfit should eventually be copied by the majority of all young people, Marcel had no choice other than to its innovative creativity to place renewed expression. Never ending story ... and yet very conducive to creativity.
Who was it still? In a globalized world, the European Union remains always an interesting community of diverse cultures, distinct ideas and the wealth of variety. Many German must have understood something wrong there. However, there are good examples of how successful it otherwise can run in some families, as will be described in the following example.
education begins at home The Hovelsteins include five family members: the 44-year-old father, Lars, the 43-year-old mother, Lena-Marie, the nine-year-old twins and Olaf Hinnerk and the seven year old Carmen. They all live in a rural tenement house on about 120 square meters in the vicinity of Hanover. Both parents place great value on an individually appropriate and free development of their three children to be guaranteed by the constant academic and social environment of their offspring. Because, in contrast to other European countries in Germany is not typically allowed to be educated his children by homeschooling, so as to thereby ensure an appropriate control environment and teaching materials and it is reasonable to expect the other hand, not every family to move to that end in a neighboring EU country, selected Hovelsteins the targeted these rural residence, after day-care centers and schools with state of the city of Hannover itself unfortunately could make only disappointing experience.
show responsibility and encourage children individually "In an environment in which youth crime in schools seems to be virtually silent on the agenda and teachers not address the strengths and weaknesses of individuals understand and take no time for it, "said Father Hovelstein," it would be our children to a non-justifiable irresponsible if we did not look here for more suitable opportunities. "
father and mother Hovelstein have searched for more suitable opportunities by directly procured before the planned move of new schools and briefings with local educators an idea. This allowed them a form of assessment and brought both peace of mind that their children can be accommodated in a place to where they think society Values are kept high, harmful influences held collective unification of all training activities is a taboo and is the individual development of each student is a must.
The school chosen by parents, these are not a private school that would be paid for dearly by the family. Nor is it a Rudolf Steiner school, the anthroposophical approaches according to experience more often provided for a Realitätsdesorientierung. Also this school is run by a church or other religious community or affected. Quite the contrary, this state school offers children a religious education, among other things, The first, from the classroom to the basic content of all five world religions involves.
beliefs of Christianity, Judaism, Buddhism, Hinduism and Islam are brought close to the children play and a collection of small stories. An excellent basis on which the young person or adult can later decide once even for or against a belief. A social (sham) exposure to a single religion, which often results in a religion is forced, by deliberately avoided and rejected. An exemplary and superior democratic performance that require actually within a well-functioning democracy in every school and kindergarten in Europe should. For who already understand the diversity, if it shows the diversity and not presented?
full day in school education The children attend the school Hovelsteins this device now for over two years. The constant contact and exchange between parents, teachers and students is part of the training program. After the day from Monday to Friday held five lessons that do not use domestic homework aware, participating in the afternoons so-called scholarships that are received through the various courses of strengths and deficiencies of school children. Each of the three children of the family Hovelstein has different interests.
Thus the seven-year Carmen shows such as an instrument course in which she meets a variety of musical instruments. Moreover, they already get from the first class additional French lessons because excelled their language ability and their musical strengths. Hinnerk other hand, has to choose the courses and crafts works and can get a little help in computing, while employed twin Olaf preferably with dancing, ballet and singing.
The children are in fact in a full-day training, with special interests, deficits and strengths explored individually and not remain unconsidered. In addition, every school child the opportunity to explain not understood from the school hours in the morning then again by the teachers.
security against attacks and harmful influences Access to this school has three security doors that are already on the schoolyard grounds and only with a smart card are passable. This ensures that only the children going to school there and educators gain access, while foreigners and not the school by ringing Related to draw attention to themselves to explain their intentions in advance.
Small school, big impact Unfortunately, the school only small and has no significant capacity. But what's making them appear to be a kind of exception that it deserves to be the nationwide rule for the majority of schools in Germany. It also makes it an educational institution, who asked not to be referred to by name in publications, since they are already against the tide of parental requests, which wish to bring their children there, is struggling extensively. Above all, it makes this school a successful example, can contribute in any form of responsible action and the constant contact between school and parents to our children in their Individuality can be promoted and employment without having to share a perspective-free "slopes" of other children and young people, which determine the streets of Germany. Julien Germain
(initial Publications: 03 March 2007 and 10 June 2010)
