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happy nowadays use the word "of life partner," to designate its current boyfriend, his current girlfriend or even the current spouse. A very apt word for it when we know from the start, not with the duration or to him who want to stay together.
gay and lesbian faithful as heterosexual couples
The statistics shows us beipflichtenderweise also that long-term partnerships or marriages in Germany have become extremely rare. During the vernacular attributed for many years, especially the homosexual connections between man and man and between woman and woman is a rather short inter-personal relationship, because there would take place after pre-trial has views of the people more the more active and frequent changes in sexual intercourse ( HWG / promiscuity) , surveys tell us the homosexual social class exactly the opposite. Accordingly, the heterosexual partnerships hold not as long as this with gays or lesbians is very often the case, and Marriages already constitute the bulk of an obstacle to foreign or go to solve in the near future by the partner again. Persons with pronounced bisexual behavior, it is often not to longer-term partnerships, which is certainly understandable. Also, in most cases of sexual fidelity and loyalty relationship (love, affection, Einstehensgemeinschaft) different from each other ...
Why keep partnerships have fewer long?
This development makes us think. So why keep partnerships and large, today less long? Obviously, it so that people simply give less trouble to respond to each other. Their own interests and desires are always in the foreground, while everyone expects from the other, that they are satisfied initially. Expectations and attitudes needed, including both all the things of everyday life and living as well as the sexual demands. The interests, wishes and concerns of his own party are here already, consciously or unconsciously subordinated or not considered. Exactly at this point it may come at the first differences of opinion and interest, which is to be totally worth to "normal" and all sides present. But even here we find the resistance of the partners, who had already filed his own ideas and wants to force this also accurately Sun A mutual agreement will result in an almost hopeless task.
But why we come here already in a dead end, which does not allow to make both partners happy? Why it is these dead ends, which then accumulate in the course of an existing partnership at some point and eventually see that it sees no common denominator or way out and finally separated from one another?
compromise is the cornerstone of all livelihood
It seems as if We are here simply to do with a lack of willingness to compromise, perhaps even with the compromise inability of many people that makes a possible continuation of the partnership impossible and prevents. More fundamentally, the entire life of compromises, as we get to feel it especially in the workplace. Let us now, perhaps even with our ever-present interests and wishes of the will of the partner? Have we become so self-centered that the person next to us and certainly nothing else counts and means? Let's actually over everything that does not interest us, though it might for others is of great importance?
If so, we must unfortunately also see that through our superficiality, self-glory, our strong selfishness and inability to compromise, probably will never be in a position to true and, above all, lasting relationships with other people build and to respond.
If we know, however, we should really do this very minute, consideration of what is really important to us. Will I be someone who is looking for a durable and reliable partnership for themselves who is willing to compromise his own interests for the benefit of the partnership can sometimes even into the background and are concerned about it, how he can make his partner happy? Or I would, however about a solitary walk in the world that continues to ostensibly pursue their own interests and spontaneously takes what offers him? Is it me here, in fact, only about sexual experiences? I reject partnership and responsibility for me off? I heard they will ever know what love is or will I never get to know the love?
love or shoots?
course, logic tells me that terms such as sex and love from their contents thoroughly ago are to be differentiated. Actually, that has to do a little even with the other. There is probably only there a connection, if one has even learned to coordinate in an entertaining partnership sex and love each other and thereby make a sudden the experience may not, how much more beautiful but also useful such a connection for us men can be truly .
love you never behold, can not understand you
love you.
love shows itself in the feeling-
love is sometimes hot, sometimes cold.
love is wasted as often
to people who are turned away.
love is often not taken into
to people who need them.
love is usually just a word,
it says it is and then continue.
love sometimes explored depths, where the feelings
slept before.
love can be so many,
it is most important in life.
Julien Germain
(Original publication: February 13, 2008)
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